“One thing we all have in common is that we want to feel happy; and we want to avoid getting hurt. Yet we consistently put ourselves in situations that set us up for pain. We pin our happiness to people, circumstances, and things and hold onto them for dear life. We stress about the possibility of losing them when something seems amiss. Then we melt into grief when something changes—a layoff, a break up, a transfer. We attach to feelings as if they define us, and ironically, not just positive ones. If you’ve wallowed in regret or disappointment for years, it can seem safe and even comforting to suffer. In trying to hold on to what’s familiar, we limit our ability to experience joy in the present. A moment can’t possibly radiate fully when you’re suffocating it in fear. When you stop trying to grasp, own, and control the world around you, you give it the freedom to fulfil you without the power to destroy you. That’s why letting go is so important: letting go is letting happiness in.” (The Lotus Bud ~ Issue No 26, June 2010)
Letting go is letting go of the clutter in the mind. That is caused by
1. Holding on to the past.
2. Fear of the future.
3. Not being in the present.
We use letting go whenever we relax, get stress relief, release painful feelings like worry or anger, take things less personally, or drop thoughts that make us and others unhappy (like self-criticism or illogical fears).
Letting go is an action of the mind – just like letting go of a tissue into a trash can is an action of the hand.
Holding on to the past is holding on to our story. Our way of interpreting the things those have happened to us in the past, which forms our image.
Accepting or understanding that our environment is simply a reflection of our life up until now, this fact is the beginning. However, there is great power in becoming accountable for the fact that we are the creator of our life and of our environment. Our old things, our old patterns, our old relationships reflect who we have been and what we have built or what you have avoided – it is our past! By accepting the full story in front of you, we can step into present time.
To let go of our worries means we are doing the opposite to what we would normally do with your worries, which is to engage with them, chase them, react to them, try to control them, and try to reason with them. Instead, letting go is about releasing our worries, letting our worries pass, and not engaging with or reacting to our worries.
Once we have told our self to let the worries go or pass, it is important to focus our attention on the present moment. When we worry, we are focused on the future and bad things that could happen. Instead, if we focus on the simple things happening in the present moment, it is impossible to worry.
Detachment is essential part of letting go. Detachment is the state of mind that is the antidote to clinging and craving. It’s a balanced state of mind that is free from obsession.
Release the need to know. Life entails uncertainty, no matter how strong your intention. Obsessing about tomorrow wastes your life because there will always be a tomorrow on the horizon. There are no guarantees about how it will play out. Just know it hinges on how well you live today. Serve your purpose now.
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